Monday, March 30, 2020

LOCKED NEST STORY

LOCKED NEST STORY


"Stay in house"/work from home" is a necessity in recent days. It is our best bet to fight with the current  health crisis.  
Staying at home is a 'double edged sword'.  While we can spend quality time with family and explore our personal space we may also face spells of anxiety, fear, frustration and boredom. For most of us, it is the combination of both.  Being in the safe environment of one's nest but still not comfortable - -"Locked nest".




We don't know how long it is going to continue. First few days, it might look easy but as days are passing, it is going to be more challenging. Meeting people , having conversations and spending time with others is our need and it helps us in many ways, in other words it keeps us going. In situations like these. When many of us  have locked ourselves in homes, we may face spells of mental breakdown and irritability, which is absolutely normal.

We can overcome these challenges with conscious efforts and co-operation with family members. Every member of the family has different needs and responsibilities.  Following points can help us to deal with different aspects - 

1. Yourself :

If you are going out for a  job which is related to essential services, work with adequate precautions. Essential services are important , it is the need of the hour.

Our health is the most important thing. Have a proper diet, exercise and drink a lot of water.

Explore hobbies and passions. It is a good time to bring back the things , which are  forgotten, like sketching, painting, reading or writing.

Meditation or praying creates  positivity.

Consciously avoid breakdown and irritability by talking to people around you.

2. Your partner/ spouse :

Appreciate your partner for the efforts he / she is taking for the family.

Just helping in the household work is not sufficient in these times. You need to step up and partner your spouse in every work. You can divide responsibilities. Choose the things you can do - cleaning house , laundry and taking care of kids and cooking ( if you are good at it).

Have conversations and help each other if one person is facing low moods or irritability.

3. Elderly :

Check on them regularly and see if any health issue.

Have conversations , remembering nice memories is a good idea.

If parents are not staying with you, have a conversation on the phone at least once a day.

4. Kids :

Children can adjust to changing environments better than the adults. We undermine their  ability of acclimatization.

They are aware this is something unusual and challenging for everyone.

We have to engage them in the right way - reading, art activity, dance ( choose according to the child's interest). Bring on interesting games. Games of your childhood days can be a good option.

No shouting or scolding the kids please. It is as stressful for them as it is for us. If you are getting frustrated just pass on the responsibility to your partner or other person in the family.

If you are staying in a high-rise building ,getting down by stairs and again climbing once a day helps a lot ( with extra precaution , like not touching anything). It's a good exercise.

If your kids are old enough to understand, making a goal oriented list / day time schedule can help them through these days. (Please include them, while making these lists)

5. Social responsibility :

Helping others can actually help us more, it is a booster for the mental well being.

Check on security  workers at society and help them.

Call on your house help and see if they are OK.
Offer them help and support them financially.

Check on neighbours.

6.  Be aware of the economic crisis that is going to follow and plan for it. 





It is important to ensure the pandemic of "locked nest" does not follow the pandemic of depression.It is just a phase and it is going to pass. Believe that , our nests are going to be unlocked subsequently. We are again going to fly high in the sky of our dreams and possibilities, in fact even higher than before.

5 comments:

  1. Very good summary, helps to all

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  2. Wonderful and responsible ideas to stay active and connected even in a 'locked nest'. Keep writing Anand to give us 'Anand' of reading in these daus.

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  3. Great msg Dr Anand & Dr Purvi... appreciate your approach of whatever you can ...doing by mental support by writting such article...Tysm

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  4. Great one !!!
    Totally agree, we nees to take a step back to take 10 steps ahead and gather more strength and energy to fly higher.

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